The most blunt and honest commencement speech ever.”You’re not special”.

Someone finally tells them that in the real world you don’t get trophies just for showing up.

105 Responses

  1. The entitlement generation needs a big wake up call! Everything from no “red marks” on your test paper cause we don’t want you to feel bad to waiting for someone else to pick up the tab on your debt…

  2. It’s about time. Honestly, these days breathing gets you a trophy in school.

  3. Applause applause! And even more satisfying to me knowing that Wellsley MA is an extremely rich liberal town in the Bay State. That guy has guts and I give him credit for telling these (mostly very well to do) young people what should have been said to them all their lives, by all the adults. In the real world, you do not get trophies for breathing.

  4. Ironically, this same theme was the centerpiece of an episode of Louis C.K.’s television show, a comedian who is apparently is frowned upon by many feminists.

    The episode revolved around a college student who was prominently seated during one of his acts and who did something rude, lol, I forgot what it was that was rude.

    The two had a debate after the show, very profound stuff, well worth the watch.

  5. lol Ani, speaking of red pens..
    https://uppitywoman08.wordpress.com/2008/12/10/teachers-red-pen-marks-hurt-your-students-feelings/

  6. “The Effort Honor Roll and Partial Credit for Wrong Answers
    https://uppitywoman08.wordpress.com/2010/07/23/improved-schools-the-effort-honor-roll-and-partial-credit-for-wrong-answers/

    “Start the school day later so kids are in a better mood”.
    https://uppitywoman08.wordpress.com/2010/07/12/latest-coddle-idea-start-the-school-day-later-so-kids-are-in-a-better-mood/

  7. Gawd I’m cracking myself up reading my old posts.

  8. a comedian who is apparently is frowned upon by many feminists.

    Those damned bitches got a lot of nerve objecting to a filthy pig who has no respect for women. That’s why it’s really okay to recommend one of his pieces of work on a Feminist blog.

  9. From Wikipedia:

    …the proportion of students who said being wealthy was very important to them increased from 45% for Baby Boomers (surveyed between 1966 and 1978) to 70% for Gen X and 75% for Millennials.

    The percentage who said it was important to keep up to date with political affairs fell, from 50% for Boomers to 39% for Gen X and 35% for Millennials.

    “Developing a meaningful philosophy of life” decreased the most, across generations, from 73% for Boomers to 45% for Millennials.

    “Becoming involved in programs to clean up the environment” dropped from 33% for Boomers to 21% for Millennials.

  10. All we need to know is right there in those numbers, Sophie.

    There’s also a recent study on gender gaps and most all the issues have remained the same in terms of gap size except one: The current younger gen believes the government should guarantee them a job and good income. Now I don’t care. That’s just plain delusional.

  11. I don’t think the govt should or even can guarantee a good job or income. I think the most they can do is create an environment where good jobs are possible which is part policy and part inspiration. These kids are doubly screwed because we have neither policy nor inspiration and their expectations are way out of touch. I feel sorry for them, but not the way they’d want me to.

  12. Holder appts attorneys to investigate leaks. Why am I so skeptical of anything ever coming of these investigations?
    http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/ticket/holder-appoints-2-attorneys-probe-leaks-232718917.html

  13. Yeah, Holder investigates. Right Fox. Meet Hen House.

  14. I was well aware of the crap hurled at Hillary Clinton from a male dominated media in 2008, although it was probably the prominent women who joined in that was the death knell.

    I haven’t seen everything that Louis C.K. has done, but I don’t get that anti feminist vibe from him. When comedians make themselves look comically bad in some of their own material, that usually means they don’t take themselves that seriously.

    Do you have a youtube link that shows C.K. at his worst?

  15. but I don’t get that anti feminist vibe from him

    Why would you?

    This has nothing to do with Hillary Clinton. It’s also not about ‘feminism’ it’s about women, period. I am not here to prove to you or debate with you why I/feminists don’t like him. There are tons of videos of him on youtube. have at it. I can understand why you would take the objection lightly, obviously.

  16. Gonna go over and visit a few blocks. See you all later.

  17. If you guys go through what I have to go through just to post on a wordpress blog EVEN THOUGH I AM LOGGED IN, it’s a wonder any of you bother.

    I am logged in as Uppity Woman from this blog. In order to post at madamab’s I have to give my email, screen name and website. THEN I get the WordPress login screen that says I am not logged in. I have to do this EACH time I post.

    WTF is wrong with wordpress doing this to people’s comment traffic? It’s TOO MUCH WORK!

  18. dailypuma, on June 8, 2012 at 9:13 PM said
    … although it was probably the prominent women who joined in that was the death knell.

    ::::::speechless:::::

  19. Oh do speak.

  20. I’m speechless. He’s clueless.
    Where does one begin??

  21. Uppity Woman, on June 8, 2012 at 7:47 PM said:
    lol Ani, speaking of red pens..
    https://uppitywoman08.wordpress.com/2008/12/10/teachers-red-pen-marks-hurt-your-students-feelings/

    *********************
    Geemeneez, Then they should hand in better work and will not get so many red marks! I can’t stand it when they don;t write in red — how am I going to see the correction otherwise?

  22. And my favorite

  23. I’m speechless. He’s clueless.
    Where does one begin??

  24. dailypuma, on June 8, 2012 at 9:13 PM said: Edit Comment
    ********
    Let’s put it this way, Greta Van Susteren said she was boycotting the WH Correspondents dinner because Louis C.K. was supposed to be the host — she was so disgusted by his foul language and horrid language about women. I am sure you can find plenty of it is available on YouTube.

  25. And by the way, he withdrew as host.

  26. Uppity Woman, on June 8, 2012 at 9:22 PM said: Edit Comment
    Gonna go over and visit a few blocks. See you all later
    **********************************
    Oooh, does that mean you are visiting mine, too!!?? 🙂

  27. post link so you can be harassed.

  28. Hmmm, sorry, but really didn’t like it. I’m all for giving kids some stone cold advice, and letting them know everything isn’t about them, and they will have to work their asses off, but I don’t think a grad ceremony is quite the venue for a snarky beat down like that guy gave. I didn’t like his style, I guess, and thought the wedding illustration was lame.

    I don’t like louis ck either.

  29. http://www.anitafinlay.com

    same as my website…

  30. My blog that is…

  31. Agreed on the wedding thing. When I started to read it, I almost turned away. But I was glad I didn’t. You see, it’s NEVER the venue for these spoiled brats. Seriously, it’s a constant, “Not now and let’s not hurt their feelings”. They are rougly 18 years old and it’s STILL not “the right time”. If not now, when? When they show up in college where they blow smoke up their asses some more? Or should it be when they finally land a job and their boss says, What the Hell is This Shit?

  32. Haha! Very true! Upps, you’re so funny!

  33. Yeah, I also could have done without the marriage analogy, but I liked the rest. But if he was a teacher at that school, he should have also been telling them this every day….or was he part of the problem?

  34. Yep, men are just so insensitive and crass, every last one of em. The fact that I was deeply offended at how Hillary Clinton was treated by the media in 2008 just doesn’t matter at all.

    And yes, prominent women put the final death knell on Hillary Clinton’s campaign in 2008, here’s a partial list…

    Arianna Huffington, Oprah Winfrey, Maria Shriver, Nancy Pelosi, Donna Brazile, (although I guess Brazile gets a partial pass because she was actually paid to be a part of Obama’s team, and yet, she threatened anarchy over how super delegates were voting when Hillary Clinton was leading, but said nothing when the reverse came to pass).

    if the first four on that list had simply waited until the public had voted instead of trying to drown out the people’s will, Hillary Clinton would have won the democrat nomination.

  35. Oh boy.

  36. Yah-yah!!! It waz the wimminz fault!!!! Forget all the rude & crude and downright vile comments made by the male pundits and mainstream sludge we call journalists…..that’s just guy talk….boyz will be boyz…..it’s those wimminz!!!! ——> BLAME THE WIMMINZ!!!

  37. Good point imust!

  38. —–> Thanks Uppity! Once in a while I have one, point that is! <—–

  39. Did you ever read Ellen Degeneres’ book, ” My Point… And I Do Have One”? Funny stuff.

  40. , on June 9, 2012 at 12:33 AM said:
    Yep, men are just so insensitive and crass, every last one of em. The fact that I was deeply offended at how Hillary Clinton was treated by the media in 2008 just doesn’t matter at all.

    No, not all men. Nice try though. I know what you’re going for here. You’re going for the “you’re man hating women/lesbians”. That makes it easy for you to dismiss rebuttals to your statements. Trying to abdicate responsibly for your own statements. Give it up. It’s as tired as the accusations of “raciiiiiiiiissssttts”

    You’re off on a tangent about Hillary and the “4 wimminz who kept her from the nomination..”. Thank you for mansplaining how she lost the nomination. ( as if.)
    Uppity told you it wasn’t about Hillary, nor feminism. That it was about women. But, again, you’ve ignored her statement and are insistent on directing the conversation. Good luck with that.

  41. Let me be frank DailyPuma, you came here and insulted every woman on this board. But that wasn’t enough for you. You keep going. You are extremely fractious and I would bet money this is not the first time you heard this. We don’t want any shit from you. And no, we have plenty of men on this blog who aren’t crass and insensitive, like you are. They aren’t with you, I can assure you. We are just sick and tired of guys like you looking for ways to irritate us, and that is exactly what you are here to do. You are interrupting some great conversation with your fractious bullshit and the door fell off your sexist closet. You have been known to complain that other bloggers don’t support you or blogroll you. Well maybe, just maybe, you might want to spend more time analyzing yourself and your own rude approach instead of them. And trust me, women don’t need your help. You obviously have an axe to grind and you aren’t going to grind it here. You knew goddamned well we would be offended when you mentioned that sicko CK, and that is obvious. you also have a habit of coming here in several different screen names, which is NEVER a good sign. So, to put a finer point on it, why don’t you just move along and find another blog to bother. Here, let me help you do that.

    Enough is enough.

  42. 🙂

  43. —–> Thanks Uppity! Once in a while I have one, point that is! <—–

    Yes that’s why I will always come and get you with the hook.🙂

  44. You teach elementary school, right, imust? I taught high school for a fair number of years. I just think that when a student is a child, we want to encourage them and we don’t want to give them limitations on who they can be as they learn to flap their wings. But For Chrissakes, by the time someone is graduating from High School, a dose of the reality they are going to witness REALLY soon is in order. I hope you agree.

  45. No imust, I guess I should read that book, yes?

  46. Yes, it’s a great book. Written many years ago, but very funny. And I do agree with you. A very timely topic on what’s going on right now at work, that I can’t really talk about…..but I definitely have an opinion about it which is in line with yours.

  47. I kind of figured you felt the same way, imust. I think administrative policy gets in the way and so many people do not realize this.

  48. bingo!

  49. imust, I don’t know about CA but NY separates teacher certifications into two categories: Primary/Elementary and Secondary. It’s because you are dealing with two different operational phases in a child and…….well……there comes a time when there comes a time….

    Schools coddling 16 year olds as if they are in third grade are doing more damage than good. The result is……well what we’ve got.

  50. why don’t you just move along and find another blog to bother. Here, let me help you do that.

    ROFL you really crack me up sometimes, the way you write things I just start laughing out loud. Okay I’m not actually rolling on the floor, but I’m LOL!

  51. Enough is enough.

    I think UW is saying that Gloria Gaynor on Wednesday wasn’t enough disco for her, now she wants some Donna summer. More disco!

    WHOOSH! <— sound of lorac running away

  52. I liked the video – I think he interspersed lots of humor to help the medicine go down. But wow, when he gave the stats it really put things in perspective! Across the country, just this year, X number of valedictorians, X number of prom queens, X number of football stars. I really liked his message about how today it’s more about appearance than achieving things, learning, experiencing life. I liked when he said to climb the mountain to see the world, not so that the world can see you (hmmm Obama needs to listen to that video).

  53. And Uppity slays another troll. Queen of hearts, clubs, spades and swords – our fairest of all, Uppity Woman.

    The way DP confronts, instigates and spews non-sense was familiar so I was not surprised to read DP has posted here under other names.

    Those comedians are not funny. There are many of them and they attempt to use comedy as a weapon against their inner demons. Be it mommy issues, date problems, self image issues, etc. they take their inner problem and attack whole groups of people under the guise of humor. The obama pastors – Pfleger and Wright did the same. They said horrible and ludicrous things with a humorous tone and their parishoners laughed and nodded. The WH has had controversial comics lead some of their parties, musicians too, who were outspoken and made foolish and hateful “jokes” – well, it is NOT funny guys…

  54. Maria Shriver? *rolls eyes*

    That weakling Hillary didn’t stand a chance with Maria against her!

  55. The mother of a high senior told me I “hurt her daughter’s feelings by marking up her papers with red pen”. My response -“What’s her favorite color? I’d be happy to hurt her feelings in that color instead.”

  56. Rofl, elliesmom.

  57. GO LANNY: http://www.buzzfeed.com/zekejmiller/lanny-davis-goes-off-on-obama-campaign-you-have

    The Clinton/DLC Empire Strikes Back. They want O out.

  58. hahah ellies, when I taught it was during a time when if a parent said that to a teacher, they would have written the parent off as a crackpot, as in WTF? Are youuuuuuuuuuu kidding? I know a great way not to get for your daughter not to have her feelings hurt. Tell her to make fewer mistakes. That kind of remark would have met with great guffaws in the teachers’ break room.

  59. The amazing thing is parents don’t seem to connect that other teachers taught and know their kids. it’s like, Oh Yeah, it’s him/her and his/her mother again. No brain surgeon there!

  60. NES, Lanny is in keeping with the building of the coalition I mentioned in my email response to you. Right on schedule.

  61. For those of you who didn’t click on NES’s link..On The Nose!

  62. On the Lanny link: Cracks me up that they want the Big Zero to run on his record! That’s an incredibly thinly veiled admission that they want him to fail! As for dissing B0 for being critical of his opponent, Idunno–isn’t that what campaigning is all about? Of course, that’s all B0 ever has.

    I disagree with the Big Dawg in that I do think it’s fair to criticize Bain capital. Sure, they had a number of real deals but they also had a number of vulture capitalist deals–the ones where they sunk companies that could have made it just to make a nice tidy profit and let the ensuing ruins and joblessness be paid for by the taxpayers. I’m not saying all their deals are bad, but I think it’s fair to call out those raw deals.

    I get that Bill, Booker, and LOTS of other Dems get donations from Bain and other private equity companies so they have to speak reasonably, even favorably about them, but I don’t like it.

  63. Frau Sophie…in keeping with our exchange over at our neighbor The Widdershins’ place.

  64. UW: That is absolutely one of my favorite movies. Still. And I did see your post elsewhere in the neighborhood.🙂

  65. Actually Obama got donations from Bain too.

    I know I’m going to get beaten up here, but the stories unfolding via video about Bain are seriously one sided. At least one of those stories was of a company that was going to tank and would have tanked under the previous owner; as in Sinking. Many companies sell to venture capitalists because they are going under water fast and want out before the owners go personally bankrupt.It’s a way to get a company like Bain to do what you can’t do and don’t have the time to do before the bankruptcy comes. Nobody stays in business to be an employer. It’s just not human nature to sacrifice your own security to do that. People stay in business to make money. It’s just the way it is. So Bain bought already dead companies (but for the burial) and calculated how to disperse assets for profit. I’m not saying everything bain did was kind, it wasn’t (see leveraged buyouts), but I’m pretty sure none of us would invest, say, our life savings in a business and keep it going at a huge loss because it would be cruel to the employees. survival precludes that kind of thing.

    …..ducking and running…

  66. One thing Lanny said that I don’t buy: That obama has vicious people working for him but it’s not him. We all know that the one thing Obama does BEST is Enable viciousness so he doesn’t have to get any on himself.
    He is a vicious man.

  67. It’s the simple things I just don’t understand. Obama is a politician from Chicago. Only one type of politician comes from Chicago…the ones that can hide behind a corkscrew.
    Why can’t the bots recognize that simple idea.

  68. UW: I agree with what you said re: Bain, and in that respect, they may even fancy themselves ass providing a service. I’m not even complaining about those deals. I just hate shit like the raw deals–as if they couldn’t make enough money doing real deals.

    Can you tell I miss industrial capitalism and have no taste for financial capitalism? I miss the days when companies were actually expected to produce something besides the overplayed “shareholder value.” FWIW, there was a lot more shareholder value when they had all of the other values as well.

  69. Sophie you have no idea how much I miss industrial capitalism.

    And leveraged buyouts are nasty things.

  70. Sophie, I LOVE that movie. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen it and I still crack up.

  71. DE the bots don’t recognize it because most of them could hide behind a corkscrew too.

  72. There’s only so much Lanny can publicly say and still get biz from the Dem party. I think he said a lot.

  73. On the Lanny link: Cracks me up that they want the Big Zero to run on his record! That’s an incredibly thinly veiled admission that they want him to fail! As for dissing B0 for being critical of his opponent, Idunno–isn’t that what campaigning is all about?

    Sophie,CT, correct — they want him to fail. Also, explains their criticism of him for attacking his opponent — as you note, that’s what campaigning is about.

  74. NES, Lanny is in keeping with the building of the coalition I mentioned in my email response to you. Right on schedule.

    Do you mean a coalition to get Hill in in ’16? If so, do you not believe that she wants to retire from politics?

  75. Yes that’s what I mean.

    And no I do not think she will retire from politics. She will appear to for about three years, though.

  76. Obama Inc. didn’t mind smacking down lifelong Dems in 2008…
    What goes around, comes around.
    Karma is a B*tch
    and she’s wearing a pants suit!

  77. I LOVE that movie. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen it and I still crack up.

    Yup!! I have it on VHS and DVD. Also, it tracks pretty well with the original Frankenstein.

  78. Another thing about Lanny…back in the beginning PUMA days, some folks from TC had a blog talk radio show..I recall SOD and AngieNC among others…anyway, Lanny actually came on the show an spoke with us one time. He was trying to get us to do the Unity thing but he was (obviously) respectful and understanding of where we stood.

    If the DLC is striking back, why now? Are they looking to get Romney in to set the stage for Hill2016? Or are they looking to create a bigger bang and bring in Hill on Sep 3, 2012?

  79. Completely OT

    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/10/opinion/sunday/the-gops-gay-trajectory.html?_r=2&pagewanted=all

    I do believe there will be a gay white male Republican president before there will be a female president of any orientation, race or party. No, it doesn’t make me particularly happy.

  80. Lanny actually came on the show an spoke with us one time. He was trying to get us to do the Unity thing but he was (obviously) respectful and understanding of where we stood.

    I remember that! I also remember when Gloria Allred was a guest and the hosts (as well as the listeners) were gobsmacked when she enthusiastically embraced Obama!
    This was especially shocking since Allred showed up at the delegate breakfast in Denver wearing a gag over her mouth.

  81. SophieCT, on June 9, 2012 at 3:02 PM said:
    I do believe there will be a gay white male Republican president before there will be a female president of any orientation, race or party. No, it doesn’t make me particularly happy.

    They’ll be a contiguous parade of every demographic of males, asian, gay, buddhist, F-M transgendered, latino, paraplegiac, etc. etc. etc., before there is ever a woman president in the US.

    Until they do right by women, everything they even think about will fail! (with apologies to Alice Walker).

  82. dwp, unfortunately it can’t be denied that Gloria will do what Gloria has to do for he biggest publicity bang.

  83. UW
    Yup. I didn’t realize that at the time though. The past 4 years (ggod god, 4 years already!) have proven that to be true. The CA gubernatorial race and the way she pursued Meg Whitman was just more proof of her m. o.

  84. I just want to check in before I have a four year old and 18 month old land here for an overnight. I actually thought that the speaker gave a much needed dose of medicine to the graduates. I believe that years later they will thank this speaker for being truthful.

    Uppity, I watched your wimmiz u-tubes. Seems we wimmiz are going backward (or at least some are).

    And, I really like Lannie Davis.

  85. Sophie I don’t think it’s realistic to imagine that the party would dump Obama. There would be blood in the streets, for starters. The only way this would happen is if Obama stepped down himself and he’s far too much of a Narcissist to do that, with one exception…if he had a major feeling he was going to get his ass beaten in November. He would not be able to stand the thought of defeat and would probably make up some excuse. But I think all of it just won’t happen, possibilty slim and none. Only oher possibility is a major scandal, but Holder is going to make sure that doesn’t happen. Fast and Furious he is blocking any real investigation, Solyndra, etc, the confidential leaks, etc etc, are only going thru DOJ, which means nothing will happen. Even though they say FBI is ‘investigating’ the leaks, good luck with that too.

  86. There would be blood in the streets, for starters.

    I thought that was the objective. Ya mean we assembled this crowd fer nuthin’?

  87. you know, all I asked for was a link to a Louis CK clip that you found offensive. The rest is on you.

    As for blaming the four women, that gave the men the excuse they needed to pound on Hillary. You should take a step back, you have more man hating in you than you realize.

    ***I had this in spam but I’m going to put it up to show everybody what a passive-resistant closet sexist you really are, you poor ‘victim,’ you. Like Barack needed four women’s permission to enable his swamp rats. And your ‘assessment’ of what just happened here is about as delusional as it gets. You’re a feminist flamer and you need to move along and take CK with you.****

  88. Sophie, I remember that PUMA show and the Allred one as well as the TV one with Rendell, I think on Fox, with his hound dog group to lure wayward Hillary exiles. There were only 10 of us and we would get over it and forget. It isn’t like we’d still be feeling the same way and still not assimilated by the obot borg… oh wait, 4 years you say… “Party Unity My Ass” and they can still KMA.

  89. I’m wild about Mel Brooks. He is truly a comic genius. One of the few still above ground. Young Frankenstein was fantastic but my favorite was To Be or Not to Be where he made Hitler funny as hell. Also the old Producers “sewer and the yucca running through-a” was just fab.

  90. Could someone please give that “you are not special” speech in a nice restaurant when the toddlers are going beserk throwing saltines in the air along with the knives as their dopey and doting parents look on adoringly? Hey, for all of you who have given birth to Baby Einsteins–your child is the center of Your Universe–not The Universe.

  91. K for C

    and we would get over it and forget.

    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I will never forget! And I will never vote for the Big Zero as long as I live! Party Unity My Ass, indeed!

  92. Way way OT but, Oh Noes…Car Talk (which I barely “listen” to but enjoy hearing) is going off the air.
    http://abcnews.go.com/US/end-road-nprs-car-talk/story?id=16533203

  93. @AnnE, that will never happen. I thought it was bad when I was a server 35 years ago, but it’s nothing compared to what it has become today. I think some egg and sperm donors (by virture of their unparental supervision) actually believe that staff is supposed to babysit Einsteinsit while they eat nowadays.

  94. @ Sophie

    Do you remember the story about the college kid whose daddy was paying uber bucks for but somehow managed to not understand how the oil was added to the engine? Those guys had me laughing on the side of the road. The man got a call from his kid (Einstein) at a major university. The oil light came on and the call to the dad came in about it and how to fix it. The dad explained, but got a call again within a few days and the kid said yes the oil was filled but the light kept coming on. When the kid finally got home for break, the dad went out to check the oil again. It was low, and the light was on. He asked the kid how he was filling the oil up because there was no leak anywhere. The genius was trying to fill it through the dipstick hole.
    I will miss them.

  95. LOL mcN..How apropos!

  96. Elton John on 20/20 right now performing for the other Queen’s Jubillee.

  97. Wow, where have i been. It’s Hemp History Week (over tomorrow) and I didn’t even know it was going on!
    http://www.hemphistoryweek.com/takeaction.php

  98. Thanks Sophie. I love hemp seeds. I prefer using hemp cloth to muslin as well.

  99. AnnE, thanks for summing up why I never have dinner in a Family Resaurant.

  100. McN: Hemp is a wonder plant, given by the Gods! It gives more nutrients to the soil than it takes and farmers used to use it in their crop rotations to revitalize the soil. Hemp oil is a renewable energy source–Henry Ford’s first auto was designed to run on help oil. Hemp clothing wears in not out (like cotton). Hemp paper lasts nearly forever and doesn’t yellow. Our Declaration of Independence is written on it. And since you mentioned hemp seeds–they’re 25% protein. Damn William Randolph Hearst, with his millions of acres of timber land along with Pierre DuPont who patented the acid-paper process completely obliterated hemp as we knew it and could have known it. And no, you can’t get a buzz from hemp.

  101. SCREEEEEEEEEEEETCHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! New Post Up.

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