A country that discards its elderly has lost its moral compass.

A role model and poster-child organization for elimination of old people. After all, they are nothing but a drain on society. Right?

Blogger friends!!! Please Reblog this! Facebook, people, please link to it!! Spread the word. This is a symptom of a infection in this country that is spreading.

Note (ht Woman Voter): Glenwood Gardens is an UNLICENSED ‘Independent Living Facility’.  News reports say that staff may not assist during an emergency regardless of DNR order. Policy applies to ALL residents..


75 Responses

  1. If you want to get rid of your mother, here’s the place to bring her. If this were my mother, I would be held in jail right now without bail.

    Frequently Asked Questions and Answers

    What is a DNR Form?

    A DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) Form (actual title: “Emergency Medical Services Prehospital Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) Form) is an official State document developed by the California EMS Authority and the California Medical Association which, when completed correctly, allows a patient with a life threatening illness or injury to forgo specific resuscitative measures that may keep them alive. These measures include: chest compressions (CPR), assisted ventilation (breathing), endotracheal intubation, defibrillation, and cardiotonic drugs (drugs which stimulate the heart). The form does not affect the provision of other emergency medical care, including treatment for pain (also known as “comfort measures”), difficulty breathing, major bleeding, or other medical conditions. Many patients make their DNR wishes officially known because they do not want to be placed on life-assisting equipment in the event that their heart or breathing ceases.

    1. Glenwood Gardens is an UNLICENSED ‘Independent Living Facility’.
    2. News reports say that staff may not assist during an emergency regardless of DNR order. Policy applies to ALL residents.
    3. Independent Living Facility is next to a licensed facility (maybe CCL or Health Services). Could this confuse residents about care/assistance during an emergency?

    I wonder if the ‘Independent Living Facility’ should be prevented from using the term ‘facility’ to not confuse residents when they are looking for services/care. Perhaps they should be known as ‘Independent Living Units’, then there is less room for confusion.

    News reports say only Vermont has a law about assisting someone during an emergency.

    I have heard of similar policies and my jaw has dropped.

  3. Woman Voter, seems like a great place for people to dump a parent they want to get rid of.

  4. Fixed the quote for you Woman Voter. I can delete your correction.

  5. Hello all. Be back soon. Mwahhhh.

  6. State Plan for Independent Living

    Draft State Plan for Independent Living
    Many ways to give feedback

    This plan describes how federal money allocated for Independent Living programs will be spent.

    Download document in Microsoft Word (32 kb) or Rich Text Format (60 kb)

    State: California
    Agency: California Department of Rehabilitation
    Plan for: 2011-2013
    Submitted in fiscal year: 2010

  7. Interesting point is that the staff in Glenwood Gardens have to have someone trained for emergencies under OSHA & California Safety Plan for their staff.

  8. TYs Uppity Woman…still trying to find more regulations that apply here. Interesting thing about the proposed “State Plan for Independent Living” in California is that it has a specific reference for Veterans. Apparently veterans use Independent Living places for retirement, wonder how the Federal Funds requirements get around not providing assistance via 911 instructions?

  9. Woman voter, post what you find out and I will update if necessary. This all seems really skanky.

  10. So they’re trained to save each other but not old people.

  11. Assisted Living Regulations and Licensing (Only lists information for Licensed facilities, so above links for California are it?)

    Federal Public Policy (Policy on Independent Living)

  12. What is an Independent Living Center?

    An independent living center is a consumer controlled, community based, cross disability, nonresidential private nonprofit agency that is designed and operated within a local community by individuals with disabilities. Independent living services maximize the ability to live independently in the environment of their own choosing. The 29 independent living centers offer five core services mandated by the Rehabilitation Act of 1973, as amended, Title VII, Chapter 1. California added two additional core services Personal Assistance Services and Housing.
    read more at:

  13. It’s a death camp for seniors.

  14. Karen!!!! Get back here!!! Somebody get the hook!

  15. @ Uppity Woman, on March 4, 2013 at 12:25 PM
    Interesting thing is Glenwood Gardens isn’t listed in Kern County via the California Independent Living ‘official’ website: http://www.rehab.cahwnet.gov/ILS/ILC-ILCKC.html

    So, I guess the proposed ‘plan’ is all the regulations?

  16. From the Provider
    Glenwood Gardens
    350 Calloway Drive [map]
    Bakersfield, CA 93312

    Talk to a Family Advisor
    (866) 824-8174

    Glenwood Gardens provides a full range of choices for today’s seniors. Choosing a senior living community represents a lifestyle choice and we understand that our residents are choosing much more than a comfortable living environment to call home. Brookdale Living’s Bakersfield, CA community delivers Inspired Independent Living, with the promise of Exceptional Experiences Everyday. In choosing this community, our residents have made a conscious lifestyle decision designed to deliver enhanced opportunities for pursuing health and life fulfillment through the exceptional independent and assisted living services, amenities, and opportunities we offer. And, the residents at Glenwood Gardens can rest assured that as their needs change, we provide a variety of ancillary services and a Personalized Assisted Living environment that encourages residents to continue to live as they please while respecting individual preferences.

    Optimun Life® and Celebrations provide an all-encompassing way of life that touches the lives of the residents of this independent and assisted living community, their families, and associates alike. Optimun Life® is a journey of self-discovery including services, features, and benefits that allow each resident to pursue their peak level of health, wholeness and fulfillment while balancing six key dimensions of personal wellness: emotional, intellectual, physical, social, spiritual and purposeful. As part of Optimun Life®, the mission of Glenwood Gardens is to encourage our independent and assisted living residents to celebrate life each day. Inspired dining and vibrant lifestyle activities come together in our Celebrations program filling the monthly calendar at Brookdale Living’s Bakersfield, CA community with themed experiences, special events, and group activities that highlight different cultures and cuisines in a common venue of camaraderie.

    Our Clare Bridge Place program serves those with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia. Each day, we promise to work to deliver Daily Moments of Success for each resident. The Clare Bridge Daily Path provides structure and activities each day designed to meet specific needs of those with dementia, while the Clare Bridge Dining Program, designed by a gerontologist and registered dietitian, helps residents in need of Alzheimer’s care retain the ability to enjoy and master the daily dining experience.

    See above (bold mine), where both ‘Independent’ and ‘Licensed’ Clare Bridge Place are mixed together. Also, California State LAW states that the LICENSED facility must display its LICENSE Number in any advertisement for public access.

  17. OOops it happened again to me… Uppity Woman help…my comments got into the blockquote… what am I doing wrong. Any hoo, found what I thought was going on with the marketing.

    ************FIXED, WV************

  18. Nursing Homes

    General Information
    Beds:120 Residents:112 Available:8 Occupancy:93%
    Accepts: Both Councils: RESIDENT
    Type of Ownership: For profit – Corporation
    Within-Hospital: NO Multi-Home: YES
    County: Kern
    661-587-0182 Provider555771
    Last Inspection On File: 10/20/2011

  19. Heck, I can’t keep the three apart, one is an Independent Living, One is an Alzheimer’s Care (possible licensed via CCL), the other is a SNF (Licensed by California Department of Health Services).

    Imagine if I was a senior trying to figure this out…

  20. Glenwood Gardens
    350 Calloway Drive
    Bakersfield, CA 93312
    Independent Living, Assisted Living, Memory Care, Nursing Homes, Retirement Communities

    Glenwood Gardens is the premiere independent, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing community of the Bakersfield area. Our luxurious features and top quality service create a relaxing and enjoyable environment for our residents. Whether enjoying a specially tailored meal in our elegant dining room by one of our chefs, or enjoying a dip in the private community pool or spa, our residents receive the best there is to offer.
    Community Featuresbrookdale-glenwood-gardens-bakersfield-pool

    We provide several options to stay healthy and active. Our exercise and wellness programs are specially tailored to meet our residents’ preferences and needs. Residents socialize with friends in our community room, or enjoy a cold sweet treat from our ice cream parlor. Our library provides a wide variety of reading material to enjoy, as well as computers with convenient internet access. A private dining room for special events or visiting guests is available at the request of residents.

    Featured Amenities

    We provide residents with a wide variety of suites to choose from. Our floor plans include studios, one-bedroom and two-bedroom units.brookdale-glenwood-gardens-bakersfield-lobby Each unit is equipped with individually controlled thermostats and comfy wall-to-wall carpeting, as well as elegant window treatments. Emergency call systems are installed in all units to provide access to assistance twenty-four hours a day. Our caring staff are trained and equipped to give aid or assistance whenever needed or requested.

    For individuals seeking the best in independent living, assisted living, memory or nursing care, Glenwood Gardens is the place to be.

    Bold mine.

  21. Glenwood Gardens is the premiere independent, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing community of the Bakersfield area.

    Our caring staff are trained and equipped to give aid or assistance whenever needed or requested.

    Notice that there is no license posted for any facility, nor statement saying their Independent Living ‘Facility’ isn’t licensed, and it is clear they mix them (facilities) up via their public advertisements. They clearly don’t post or make clear that they will NOT offer help in an emergency in their Independent Living ‘Facility’!

    How long did it take me to find this! Me, who has a sister who is a technology librarian (won some award recently) and who has taught me to do searches, yet a dear senior person is supposed to figure this out! SHOCKING!


  22. Emergency Call Systems lolol.

    You ring the bell, they can come and watch you die.

  23. Hey UW!!!!
    Sorry to not be around lately.
    Busy busy.

  24. This segment quotes the website, which says exactly what I found in their other advertisement:
    OUTRAGE! 911 Staffer pleads with Nurse to Attempt CPR on 87-Year Old Woman…

  25. The caller is being identified as a nurse. My question is, what’s a nurse. My observation is that the term is being applied to people with all levels of qualifications or lack of qualifications. If I ever an forced to deal with one of these facilities, I’d ask to see some evidence of actual education. I know of a phlebotomist calling herself a nurse.

  26. BTW, isn’t this a pro-lifer issue? Shouldn’t we be hearing from them about this, like some picketing or something?

  27. Policy questioned after nurse refuses CPR
    “Under California law, unlike at a nursing home, staff members at independent living facilities are not legally required to provide medical aid, according to Mary Winners, an expert on senior care.

    “It’s really more like a hotel where they will offer you concierge services, you’ll get meals, they’ll have housekeeping, they’ll change your bed, but you can’t even get care,” she told TODAY. ”

    That may well be true, but as we found in the above advertisements they mix-up the services and state otherwise:

    “Glenwood Gardens is the premiere independent, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing community of the Bakersfield area.


    Our caring staff are trained and equipped to give aid or assistance whenever needed or requested.”

  28. Over the years, we have had several older couples and singles move into our condo community after living in independent living/senior complexes. They found the “facilities” to be very scary places. The vague wording and unexpected dumping of residents who actually require some basic care assistance, the extra fees for every little item and the isolation all made them feel very uncomfortable.

    Many of my mother’s friends are now in assisted living and I have been reading over the acceptance requirements as a couple older relatives wanted to look at the facilities as an option. This particular facility has three levels of “care” and the even the highest is very limited. And they tell you what level you need (each level is an add on to your already high monthly bill). You need any real care – your application is turned down. If you are already a resident – you are sent to a nursing home and they state that they may not take you back after a hospital admission and/or rehab nursing stay. But you need to really dig to find that information. Everything is about the lovely lobby, the hair salon, the wonderful food, the field trips and that you will have 24/7 attention available. Very few ever see the fine print until it is too late and have no backup plan.

  29. The thing I found out the hard way is you need to pay for long term health coverage and it costs you through the teeth. Regular health care coverage will not pay for in home care and many things you think are covered under your health care plan you can forget about it. You will die unless you have a child like me that will give up their place and move back home to care for an aging parent. And you can bet the bank that anything your parent has and you have will go to pay for the care. We were paying upwards of $ 1400.00 a week for services my mom needed and it was not covered under medicare or her provider Kaiser. These assisted living places are a sham. The senior sells their home and they get it all and do nothing that you would think they are going to do. This is why I plan on putting my home and entire holdings into my kids names and let them do what they will before the state comes at me in the future for anything my medicare or what ever does not cover. I know that my generation will never see the kind of retirement or care our folks got and we will be pushed in a room to die. I got it loud and clear. Spend it now folks cause otherwise an insurance company or state will get it and you still die.

  30. Well, I am so glad you are covering not only this story, but what it reveals about what we ALL face – as we ALL WILL AGE into “seniors.”

    The last three years I have personally visited – heard the stories from residents and aides and seen a lot for myself the many disconcerting, heartbreaking issues going on in assisted living and senior care facilities.

    Heads up – I have heard recently that several “home-assistance, publicly funded agencies” (one today called “Visiting Nurses Association”) are cutting their home-visiting services to that of “Hospice Care” only.

    From what I have seen myself, I think it is telling of what is coming for our Senior population. Types of Medical Care provided after a certain age will be “Comfort Care” only… medicate for maximum patient manageability, lower staffing costs and higher profitability.

  31. I made some life-altering decisions because I DO NOT AGREE that keeping parents or the elderly at home is unfeasible, too hard or not in their best interest when it comes to the “quality of care” they can receive.

    Here’s TRUTH – the elderly aren’t hoping for prolonging their lives as much as sharing what’s left of it with those they love and/or feel loved by – at whatever capacities they have left to experience that.

    I’m afraid we’ve already allowed the industry to get away with setting the standards to the benefit of the industry – rather than what’s left of our humanity regarding our elderly.

  32. There is one place locally that the residents will sell their belongings to anyone so that they aren’t placed in the 1st level. One old man paid for private school tuition for all three kids of one of the assistants. He died and left his entire fortune to her just to stay out of the first floor. What happens on the first floor? Lots of what this story is about.

  33. To me Hospice is a joke. I will never sing their praises. They cost my brothers and I a fortune and did not really do a damned thing other then interfere. My mother was not aware that she was dying and what did hospice do ? Insisted on telling here against our wishes. We all knew her far better then anyone else and knew that telling here would send her into depression and sure enough it did. They sent a priest in to give her last rites before we even wanted it and she was conscious and knew then for sure. What quality time we were having with her was then destroyed. They came in and showed us how to clean her and left. They did nothing but sit around and tell us what we needed to do and drank coffee. These bastages could not even relieve my daughter and I for an hour to get some rest or go to the store. I did not get one benefit from them but interference and telling me what I needed to do. They did not respect our wishes what so ever. I will never again deal with this over priced service and have them take over in a dying procedure. $ 1400.00 a week after insurance paid for it and it was mandated by the insurance carrier in order to keep her home. NEVER again. Hospice is an over priced social service that gets into your affairs and tells you how things are going to be.I have no respect for hospice and if they come into my home at my time I hope I can still hold a gun.

  34. I had a week off work and drove south to look at real estate and jobs in Florida. When my house here sells I will be ready to go now that all my research is as done as can be.

    I never eat mcdonald/burger king type food – ever. This week I caved in twice and had a big Mac and a whopper Jr. They tasted exactly like I remember them tasting a dozen years ago – the last time I had them. Both nights I had to take TUMS and after the Mac I was not able to sleep due to sour stomach. I didn’t even have fries. Just one burger from each place – drive thrum while on the road.

    My body is so not used to grease. I also had a small sized lovely chicken pecan apple pomegranate dressing salad at wendy.

    Three fast food meals in one week is a record for me.

    Caught up on the posts and comments. Missed everybody!

  35. Karen I must you, you snot!

    Utah, Hospice of S Florida was absolutely wonderful with my mother, however she was in coma having her conversations from another dimension. But they were there for us constantly.

  36. Karen I always feel like crap after I eat on of those burgers. I think they put a lot of sugar in everything to cover up for something. I pass, I just don’t feel well after I eat that stuff. And for some reason, I eat faster when I eat it. It’s like you wolf it all down and then say, Uh-Oh. If I want a burger, I make one. I like knowing what’s in my food.

  37. UPDATE:

    Nursing Home CPR Case: Glenwood Gardens Defends Nurse Who Refused To Help Ailing Patient

    BAKERSFIELD, Calif. — Police in Bakersfield are investigating whether there was any criminal wrongdoing in an independent living facility’s handling of a resident’s death after a nurse refused to perform CPR on the woman.

    Bakersfield Police Department spokeswoman Michaela Beard said Monday a police dispatcher first fielded the call from the facility last week saying that a woman had collapsed in the dining room. Police immediately routed it to the fire department for emergency services, Beard said. But when a second dispatcher pleaded with a nurse at the facility to perform CPR on the resident, she refused.

    read more:

  38. Karen! Don’t move to Fla. It’s a swamp and voting is miserable!
    P.S. Do not eat fast food. Imagine all the macaroni and pie you COULD HAVE had instead of those MickyD’s!

  39. OT: John Conyers introduced a one-line bill named Cancel the Sequester Act of 2013!
    blockquote>Section 251A of the Balanced Budget and Emergency Deficit Control Act of 1985 is repealed.

    Since it was fabricated by Congress, it can be un-fabricated by Congress.

    P.S. Jacob Lew, the guy Obama nominated to be his principal economic adviser is the author of the sequestration provision. Lew likes austerity. The “Grand Bargain” is the Grand Illusion–they were coming after Social Security one way or the other.

  40. Similar situation, but in their SNF licensed facility:

    Glenwood Gardens SNF : citations
    07/17/2008 AA Neglect Supervision Patient Care Patient Care


    Name at time: Glenwood Gardens SNF
    On 12/16/06, an 84 year old resident, who suffered from dementia, choked and subsequently died after swallowing a ketchup packet. He had a well-known history of attempting to eat non-edible items, and his careplan called for supervision to maintain his safety. The facility did not detect him ingesting the ketchup packet, nor did it seek emergency medical attention when his health condition rapidly deteriorated on 12/16/08. Despite life threatening symptoms, he remained in the facility for over 12 hours until he died. Following his death, the coroner reported that a mortuary embalmer discovered the ketchup packet wedged in the back of his throat. Citation # 120005216.

  41. Uppity Woman,

    I am off to do errands, thank you for covering this story, as we are ALL going to be ‘elderly’ at some point.

  42. You’re welcome WV and it SHOULD be covered. I can’t imagine anyone overlooking this very pointed message about how we are beginning to treat the elderly.

  43. Well looky here. They caught and tagged another great white shark. Near a surfing area……in Florida

  44. Keith Dobermann wants a job back at his old ESPN. ESPN says thanks but no thanks!! hahahahahahaha!!!

  45. There are people out there that care, even for little animals.

    Kitty Alva ‏@HeyKitty

    #Heroes. But nurse won’t do CPR on woman. MT @KCBSNews: firefighters CPR “over an hour” on 2 dogs, saving both http://cbsloc.al/YozmPK

  46. Yeah i saw a vid where they took a cat out of a burning home and CPRed it to life too. I wouldn’t put my pet in that facility thats for sure. Much less my mother.

  47. They certainly named that placed accordingly. And they meant it. “Independent Assisted Living Facilty.” How many of their residents understood that little fine line in the protocol about letting them languish in an emergency, because they would have to wait for EMS????? You can pay with your life by moving into that place. Sadly.

    What is astounding is that a nurse, a trained professional, would let someone struggle for life with the eminent risk of death, just because of a protocol.

    There are times when ya just must act, one human being to another. Screw the protocol!

    Litigation seems ripe. It just won’t revive the lady who died though.

  48. Thats a sad story. I think the dementia care places have a lot of DNR patients, but I doubt if a regular assisted living does. My Mom has a DNR, if she has dementia or Alz, she does not want to be resuscitated. Doesn’t want to live a long time with it like my poor Dad, who also had the DNR, btw.

  49. Well, socalhubbie says Hi! and sends this to lUppity and all you Uppityites, a little kick back Monday night music:

  50. We’re all laughing about Dobermann! Karma baby!

  51. That would be really scary, catching a great white that size.

    I hope Karen will be happy down there!

  52. socal, my mother signed her own DNR too, and one hospital tried to get me to override it when she signed it.

  53. Yeah Keithy, you’ve come a long way baby. A Hole. Get a job.

  54. Waving to Mr. Socal!!!!

  55. Honestly, I squeal with glee everytime Olbermann gets shot down. I am hoping he is reduced to shoveling shit for a living.

  56. ROFL! We are watching Claptons Crossroads Guitar Festival 07. They are having it in NYC next month. Anyway, we just saw this song with Winwood and thought it was nice:

  57. Re the misogynistic men, I could forgive them if they admitted they were wrong and made an obvious effort to change, but you rarely see that for some reason.

  58. I agree socal. I would forgive any man who changed his ways. I also know sometimes a guy slips up, particularly in use of words, adjectives/descriptors that are designed for women especially, and if he learns from it, he should always be forgiven. It’s rough to break old habits and sometimes they are reflex, but if anyone learns from a mistake, it should always be forgiven. But like you said, it’s rare that they will look at you and say, I am sorry, I really didn’t realize………..

  59. DE! I just saw your comment! I miss you! I know it’s because business is great and I’m glad, but I still miss you!!!

  60. PRESS CONFERENCE: BPD on Glenwood Gardens CPR refusal, death of Lorraine Bayless:

  61. Shocking, that restaurants/cafes have policy about assisting their dinners/guests but a place calling themselves a ‘FACILITY’ leaves them gasping for air on the floor. California needs to apply similar requirements to these ‘Independent Living’ death traps that it requires of food establishments, as they say they proving ‘dinning’ facilities, well then they FAILED to meet the STANDARDS of operations by likewise establishments.

    I remembered this last night as I was once part owner of a ‘coffee shop’ and we had staff training in First Aid and CPR per OSHA and for our ‘guests/customers’. Heck I even posted posters about what to do in the common area. People in California should call their legislators and demand that these Independent Living places at least meet the standards of food establishments! (((Aaargh)))

    From Sunny Point Cafe’s Employee Handbook:

    In the event of an emergency, like an
    apparent injury or choking situation, notify a manager
    immediately. Managers are responsible for administering
    CPR, choking procedures or appropriate first aid.

  62. I eat no cooking except my own I like knowing what’s in my food. 🙂

  63. Everyone knows that if the person faints in a dinning area, that you go through the procedures and this includes CPR. So, I wonder if the Glenwood Gardens has their required posting in their ‘dinning’ area?



    California requires its health department to establish first aid instructions for removing food stuck in someone’s throat. The instructions must not include techniques that use physical instruments inserted into the victim’s mouth or throat. The department must give a copy of them to the proprietor of every on-site eating establishment. Proprietors must post them in a conspicuous place, which may include an employee notice board, to enable them to be consulted by anyone attempting to provide relief.


    The law states that, in the absence of other evidence of noncompliance, the fact that the instructions were not posted does not in and of itself subject the proprietor or employees to liability for personal injuries or wrongful death arising from a choking emergency. It also states that it does not obligate anyone to remove, assist in removing, or attempt to remove food stuck in another person’s throat. In an action for damages for personal injuries or wrongful death, neither the proprietor nor any person who removes, helps remove, or attempts to remove the food in accordance with instructions is liable for civil damages as a result of any acts or omissions (Cal. Health & Safety Code § 114180).

  64. INMO, I still think they failed to meet the standards of care for dinning guests in their ‘dinning room’, as per any food establishment, that would render assistance to a customer/guest who fainted while dinning.

    Strong>Glenwood Gardens releases statement regarding investgation, 911 call

    BAKERSFIELD, Calif. – Glenwood Gardens is an independent living facility, which by law is not licensed to provide medical care to any of its residents.

    We are conducting an internal review to determine all of the facts about what occurred while waiting for the paramedics, who arrived moments later. Our associate who was involved was serving in the capacity of a Resident Services Director, not as a nurse.

    read more:

  65. Update(s) on this story – a bit conflicting?

    Company: Woman who refused CPR erred on policy
    Associated Press – 1 hr 22 mins ago


    Family: Woman denied CPR wanted no intervention
    Associated Press – 7 mins ago


  66. Why Not?,

    I think the ‘MAIN’ company headquarters is busy fielding a PR nightmare as many news orgs are checking to see how many of these ‘Independent Living’ apartments are in their communities and what their policies are.

    They will have to also say their spokesman and his press release statement was wrong too. Most odd and very suspicious.

  67. The main problems are from the licensed facility (Assisted Living or the SNF) as the it was their ‘Independent Living Facility’.

    Read more: UPDATED: A history of problems at elderly home where nurse refused to give CPR to dying woman – The Denver Post http://www.denverpost.com/ci_22714597/glenwood-gardens-911-cpr-denied-california-senior-center#ixzz2MlnXDAdh
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    UPDATE 3/5/13, 10:01 a.m. CNN later reported that Bayless’ daughter disputed reports that she was fine with how Glenwood Gardens reacted. From CNN: “‘I never said I was fine with that,’ daughter Pamela Bayless told CNN Monday before hanging up the phone. ‘That was completely taken out of context, and I have no further comment.'”

  68. Ahhhhhh, WV. I think you’re right about the main company scrambling.

    No wonder the conflicting “updates” just didn’t pass my smell test.

    Thanks for keeping us informed on this sad and most important story.

    I think the POLICY DETAILS people like you are are exposing reveals that the industry has run amok with its own version of exploiting the elderly, their emotionally vulnerable families and the gullibility of a complacent general public – that thinks the elderly are no longer relevant members of society, thus, less worthy of consideration on matters of ‘humanity.’

  69. The more you smell this story, the more it stinks, eh?

  70. Yeah, a real oozer kind of stink, Uppity. The commentator’s analysis of the 911 recording at the following link sums it up for me – UNBELIEVABLE non-response from the staff member.

    Her non-response sounded like… uh… the non-response of the family of the woman:

    In its statement, Bayless’ family said the incident provided “a lesson we can all learn from.” The family also announced it had no intention of suing the facility.

    “It was our beloved mother and grandmother’s wish to die naturally and without any kind of life prolonging intervention,” the family said. “We understand that the 911 tape of this event has caused concern, but our family knows that mom had full knowledge of the limitations of Glenwood Gardens and is at peace.”

    The family also said it was surprised by the amount of attention the incident received.

    “We regret that this private and most personal time has been escalated by the media,” the statement said.

    According to fire officials, Bayless did not have a Do Not Resuscitate Order, but this was not confirmed by the family or Glendale Gardens

    (bold emphasis mine)


  71. Why Not, WV and I were talking about that after it happened. The daughter was non-plussed. You know what it smelled like to me? A great place to dump mom and let her get it over with.

    Hey maybe Mom wouldn’t sign a DNR so this was a backdoor way.

  72. Glad it’s not just me that’s got that –

    “What’s love got to do with it… What’s love, but a second-hand emotion”

    going round in my head. Last year, myself and others actually watched, over a period of three weeks, what unfolded when a darling little woman, who had had a relatively minor stroke, was abandoned by her husband in a nursing home.

    He came only once after she arrived there and without his interest in her – much less her speech and physical therapy (she learned to utter my dog’s name and so lovingly pet him it would have made you tear up too) and no other family coming around (don’t know if there was any) medication maintenance took care of her, relatively quickly.

    Asking the staff about her once she was relegated to her room, never to be seen out on the floor or in the dining-big screen tv area again, (which is where she wanted to be all of the time – around others) was met with a long, blank “don’t go there” stare.

    I still think of her several times a week. Her name was “Joy.”

  73. Why Not, typical of that gen, if she couldn’t cook, clean and wash his shorts, she was of no use to him any longer. May he burn.

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